He promised to leave his wife, but he prays for a happy marriage

Becky Tsetsiwah Stephanie. The truth I can tell you is that a man will never leave his wife for you. Married men are there to waste your time and life. You are still young, I do not know why you are wasting time with a married man. Is it his money, the good sweet nothings that you are after?

Don’t aim at breaking other people’s marriages. There are many men out there looking for partners and you are being blinded by money. My dear, forget about it because it is not love he is up to. Get on your feet, eat your heart and call it off. Don’t let a fellow woman cry because of her marriage . Look for your own man. Let go of that relationship it is taking you nowhere.

Christine Acen My dear, you are wasting your time. That man will use you and dump you before you realise. If it is true that he has issues with his wife, you are obviously his sex satisfier.
That is all. Think. You are too young to date a married man and qualify for second hand.

Mutyaba De Katamba. Has he given you reasons why he is divorcing his wife? If he was not straight on his prayer request, did you ask him why he contradicts himself? Don’t wait for him to divorce his wife. Advise him not to divorce. Thereafter, divorce all your feelings for him because you will never see the future in his hands.

Kenlove Rogers I honestly think that this guy loves you but he’s been caught between the old love and new love. Support him through the divorce process since you have only dated.
Imagine you have only dated for one month and you feel him that way. On his side, he is trying to dissolve a marriage of years, including hurting his children because I believe they love their mother.

Diana Atuha Ahebwe. Ooh dear. I guess you are still young, why would you wish for a fellow woman to lose her marriage because of you. Put yourself in her shoes, how would you feel?
Just repent and give that guy distance and with time, feelings will disappear. You still have great future ahead of you but don’t waste it now because be sure to regret once you continue with that married man. Pray to God to give you a man you can call yours.

Nina Cuet There is no way a person can continue staying with another he hates especially in marriage, not even for the children’s sake.

He still loves his wife but probably had a misunderstanding or he is just a player. So stop dreaming that he can for a single day prefer you to his wife; that cannot happen. He is just playing around with your feelings.

George William. Before I give my advice, please whatever you do, never ever check your guy’s phone if you really want peace otherwise you will keep on suffering from head aches for nothing. These days people just post things for fun, some don’t mean them. Okay, you saw a photo saying marriage strengthening, but what does it mean? Believe and trust in your heart. Any decision you make, just know that it is the right one because you asked no one when you decided to go in for that married man even if he had told you that he was married. You made the decision on your own.

Siraje Kunsa He is married! And you are 23. Can’t you just digest that for Christ’s sake? Banange whats up with girls of today?

Christine Asiimwe What are you still waiting for? You got a chance and found his prayer request asking God to strengthen his marriage and now you are here seeking for advice, Seriously? Dump him or go ahead loving him. If he breaks your heart, you also go to God to ask him to strengthen you.

Tukesiga Mubaraq. Are you there to separate the two, imagine it was your marriage, how would you feel, get your own MAN. Twenty three years and fighting for married men?

Florence Imodoi Girl, all has been said. But I repeat. That relationship can’t work out, let that man gooooooo unless you are desperate

Fortunate Wanican. I wish I could go back to your age, I would make an informed decision! At 23 and already after people’s husbands? My dear it is not right whether he divorces his wife or not. Go for unmarried men. Some woman will pour acid on you for no good reason. Take your life serious lyso you may not regret in your old age

Counsellor says :Stephen Langa Family Life Network

Dear Ann, dating a married man is usually a very big mistake by any woman. It is a dead end because if he has to choose between the two of you, in most cases, he would choose his wife.
It could be that they had a misunderstanding and he is using you to get fun or break the boredom at home. You may have given in to him so quickly so he keeps on lying to you about the divorce to keep you around him as long as he can. This is the reason he is promising to divorce his wife.

At 23, you are a young girl. Find your own man and settle down. The faster you can get out of this relationship, the better. Imagine the guilt you will bear for breaking someone’s marriage!
Generally, dating a married man should be a no-go area because such a man will only use you to have fun. There are usually high chances that they will reconcile if they had a misunderstanding and you will be a victim as he will have no second thoughts in dumping you for his first wife.

Women who date married men should always put themselves in the picture of the other woman from whom they are snatching the man. Perhaps they will be in the same situation one day and they will not like it.

Compiled by Beatrice Nakibuuka

Next week’s problem

Dear Heart to Heart, I have been in a relationship for five years now. We have a four-year-old child but I just do not seem to understand my woman these days. She comes home so late, never calls home to check on how we are doing and when I confront her about her coming back home late, she just tells me that she is looking for money. I wonder what kind of business goes up to 2am...Could she be having a side relationship?

-Kato