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Cohabiting doesn’t guarantee a long-term relationship
Joel Mataya is an enthusiastic pianist
What you need to know:
PIANIST: - Joel Mataya is an enthusiastic pianist. He does not believe in cohabiting. He believes that people should take their time to to choose a life partner, writes, Charlotte Ninsiima.
Who is Joel?
I am a professional pianist at Kainos Fellowship International. I also work with an internet service provider company. I love God too.
Are you seeing someone? What ideal qualities do you look out for?
Yes I am. She ought to be understanding, a good listener, God fearing and loving.
She desires to see us develop.
What is that one thing you have done for love?
I fulfilled my promise of introducing her to my parents to show my real commitment.
How do you celebrate her?
First of all, I tell her how much she means to me. I don’t hide her from the world and I make sure to spend as much time and resources as I can on her.
What can you not tolerate in a woman?
A woman who complains a lot irritates me
Are there girls in church who have hit on you? How do you deal with it?
I keep it professional. In such scenarios, I find a polite way of telling them that I am dating. I insist on mere friendship. If they can’t take it, I have no business with them.
Do you believe in love at first sight?
Not really. That is just a crush. Love grows gradually.
Would you marry someone older than you?
I can’t. I have grown up seeing men marrying ladies younger than them. That is just the way it is.
What is the best gift you have ever received?
The day she accepted my marriage proposal on February 3, 2019 at Victoria Mall in Entebbe.
Do you believe in cohabiting?
Cohabiting doesn’t create long-term commitments. Partners are not sure whether the relationship will be temporary or permanent. When it comes to ownership of family assets like a house, vehicle, businesses, etc, a man may register these properties in only his name. Secondly, Ugandan laws protect spouses in marital relationships than individuals who are merely living together. In case the man dies, the woman may not inherit any property in case there is no a valid will. Some women think cohabiting is a ticket to marriage. Men on the other hand may not be interested in marriage.
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What advice do you give to people searching for partners?
Don’t rush. Most people choose partners just to make sure that they are not seen as lonely. It’s better to be alone than having the wrong partner. Such rushed decisions cause confusion, anxiety and depression. Make your intentions known and clear right from the start.
