He wants me to apologise

The first time we met, we talked about many things but he did not mention his marriage. On the second date, I noticed the unmistakable wedding band and asked about it.

He told me he wore it for work because his employers insisted on their employees being married. I did some research and found out he was not only married, but he also had three children.

When we were supposed to meet for our third date, I turned him down pointing out I had discovered he was married. He begged me to give him a chance to explain, and I did. He told me it was true he had three children but was separated from their mother.

“I am lonely and if you give me a chance, you are the kind of woman I want to settle down with,” he said.

Of course I knew he was lying when he told me his wife still lives with him but they have no relationship. I just did not want to be part of a relationship that looked toxic from where I stood and I told him so.

But he continued begging, haranguing and eventually stalking me.

I reported him to police and that checked him. So I was shocked to receive a call from him two years later, claiming I owed his wife an apology for trying to wreck their marriage.

After I had picked my jaw from the floor and fixed it back, I told him the only thing I owed his wife is not telling her that her husband is a psycho who stalked me for months after I had refused to have a relationship with him.

So, this is in essence an open later to you James’ wife. I am sorry I did not tell you, your husband often forgets your existence and that of your children. He is a liar, a stalker and has no boundaries.

I am not sure why you stay, but I guess it takes a special woman to want to have anything to do with James. Whatever it is, I respect your strength and wish you all the best.