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Some marriages were just not meant to be
I am sure there are successful marriages where couples must be happy, feel lucky, loved and so much more. However, for today I want to talk about people who are pressured to get into marriage or those that look at it as a symbol of success.
I’m sharing this after a quick call I received from my married friend’s wife and had to rush to their house. I found these two with tears rolling down their cheeks. My observation, “falling in love and marrying someone who wasn’t meant for you can really hurt and disturb”. (and no, I didn’t mention any of this to them). In our conversation, they both began complaining, looking at all the wasted time, the sired kids that they can’t take back and the money invested in the wedding and so much more.
When such issues occur, people start to regret why they didn’t take the time to evaluate the people they were making the decision to spend the rest of their time with. Someone just looks at the beauty of a man/woman and boom they are married, and guess what, that’s how people end up marrying ghosts. Do not laugh or smile, this is real.
I’m sharing this for my fellow young people who have not yet joined the marriage institution, it’s okay and beautiful to get married young but also don’t be pushed to get into it before you have a clear understanding of what happens there. It’s because of this lack of knowledge on what happens in marriage and pressure to get married, especially for the young women, that you find someone has four kids from four men or a man with five kids from five women. Some people even start calling you an adulterer because of the kids with different mothers/fathers yet it’s from the wrong choices you may have made and the moment you find out you are with the wrong person, you let go because no one wants to stay where they are not happy. And in most cases, there is nothing to do because you don’t need the person and they too don’t need you. In a nutshell, you are searching, and they too are still searching even when you are married. Ever been in a relationship/marriage and you feel like damn, we would’ve been great had we been just friends.
And then there is this funny type, people meet in clubs, bars, churches (yes, I mean it, church) or even social media and boom, off to home, two days later pregnant, three months later a wedding, all property is changed into both spouses’ names. (ha-ha satan can really be tempting). I’m not disputing love at first sight, no, but let’s take the time to make sure it’s not the initial excitement of love or even good sex that is pushing us into marriage and before you know it, you feel like you’re sharing your nights with someone you consider the devil himself. Marriage is a beautiful thing but it’s not the ultimate success.
Samuel. A. Ssempala
