Why do I love older women?

Bebwa Steven: Every choice you make in life has consequences both positive and negative. Be sure you are ready to face them; whether she has a crooked back and can’t walk again, be sure you will not walk out. Otherwise, it feels childish; try and adjust to women your age.

Walusimbi Rashidah: I also don’t know sometimes what happens to our brains. I am a woman but I have feelings for fellow women but while it is so hard, you have to fight it.

Kyagulanyi Ronald Matyansi Junior: You will end up in trouble if you step into someone’s marriage, if you are dating those who are single its fine, age doesn’t matter.

Mukisa Isaacah Chemutayi: A prayer night is enough for that demon of immorality in you, seek God’s presence you will never experience such a thing in your life again in Jesus’ name.

Thadeous Hon: I would say you are normal if you could settle with one, but it seems you are attracted and still chasing every old woman! And the fact that you shifted from young to old, you may now start shifting to pensioners if you don’t manage and try to control your emotions.
You may also need to search for the services of a counsellor.

Beinomugisha David: Only if they are not married, otherwise, you are finished. While we are fighting for an HIV free Uganda, everyone with HIV should follow doctors instructions properly for a better life. Those without, never think that others are safe just by looking attractive. Five minutes of happiness can turn into bitterness for the rest of your life. Everyone must test for HIV/AIDS, cut off bad friends, mixing relationships is a shortcut to your grave. Consult the doctor about your health not friends and ensure good health. Thank God regularly and pray to him. Let us help our fellows with any disease to visit the hospital early for a better life.

Counsellor says : Margaret Tumusiime teacher and counsellor

What you are going through is an experience most young men go through, at 26 years; you should be getting attracted to girls your age and not a 40-year-old. This is a psychological mentality that you have perceived.

You might be doing this because of several reasons for example, peer pressure, through the kind of pornography you watch and read and maybe because you don’t have to give old women money but instead it’s them that give you. But that is a mental setting that you can reset into normal thinking once again.

Engage yourself in activities such as football or praying so that you can be occupied and avoid that kind of temptation, start going out and surrounding yourself with girls your age and with time, you will get rid of that feeling. Get back to the values and norms of your culture and try to avoid the kind of friends you have if at all they practice the same because this is of no good.

Compiled by Zuurah Karungi

Next week’s problem

Dear Heart To Heart, I have a girlfriend who is very caring and loving. She is also open and I have shown her to my mother. But the problem is that she has not yet gotten over her ex-boyfriend. When I am with her, she keeps on talking about him. I told her I don’t like it when she does that but she only keeps him out of our conversation a few times and then brings him up and keeps insisting that she loved him so much. I love this woman so much because of her traits but what can I do to make her forget her ex.
Ken Phoe

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