I have fallen out of love

Philip, I am thinking all a long you weren’t in love with her, you were just infatuated. Yours was lust not love at all! However, it is not too late to work on your relationship. You could benefit from services of a marriage counsellor or your church leader. You could also share this with your best man and her maid of honour. Twinomugisha

You make me recall Mexican soaps. A man marries someone he does not love and in the end struggles to get out of the relationship...Why did you marry her in the first place? Otile

Some things are more spiritual than they appear to be. Take caution and bear that in mind that your enemy Satan hates marriage and he will do anything to see that marriages break. Family is the strongest foundation of a nation. Tumukunde

Try to analyse what made you want to marry her, it may be that you have forgotten. Try to do the things you used to do before getting married that made both of you happy. Above all, change your mindset and everything will work out. Nabuyobo
Aine Shane: Disappointing her is not a solution. I believe in making things right. If she is still making advances at you even within marriage, it means she still loves you. Find the missing part and make your marriage stronger. Try taking her out or better yet, do things that you used to do as a couple.

Harriet Sheryl: Try to look back at your relationship, analyse yourself, and her. There could be something that put you off the road of love. If its about your girl, talk to her, you will learn to love her again.

Wamugoda Joseph: You may not have a reason for falling in love, but falling in love always has reasons. These include financial, behavioural, and social.

Tusiime Praise: Why is it that you cannot decide for yourself? You might even find that your sperms are the ones which are not working! Now where do you want her to go? Remember, communication is key in each and every relationship. So, if you cannot be open and tell her the reason why you want to leave her, then what do you expect?

Munna Nabukeera Lubega: Time apart will do you some good.
Plus talk openly with her. Tell her how you are feeling.

Peter Waiswa: Love is a decision, not a feeling because feelings tend to die but love remains. Don’t come back here again, the solution is within your reach.

Shiv Kun: Yes its true you can just fall out of love but its something that can be worked upon.

Annet Elizabeth: Identify the reason why you have fallen out of love and work on it. The fact that you are not seeing someone else indicates you can still mend fences.

Joan Weere: Truth be told, let her go because you are wasting a lot of her time.

Nalukwago Joy: I wish she could look through your eyes and see what is inside your heart. I know deep down in her heart, she is hurting.

Teyeggala Prisca: Try and make her your friend, love will develop again.

Josephine Bakka: If it is really a holy marriage, don’t you remember the vows you made? Seek counselling. Above all, pray for God’s guidance.

Joshua Wamala: Differentiate between infatuation and love. True love abounds. You could have had unrealistic expectations and wrong reasons for getting married.

Rinny Majoria: Maybe it was an arranged marriage or financial issues not love.

Abdul Karim Ali: My friend, marriage is like chewing gum, when you start chewing, you realise some sweetness but after the sweetness is gone, it is up to you to continue chewing or spit it out.

Winnie Apio: Don’t set her free because what God has put together no man should separate.

Noel Ikwap: Love is like a flower it blossoms and withers. But if it withers, you do not cut the plant. Instead, you water it. Be patient.

Blessed Izuhbelluh: You were not meant to be simple! Maybe you just wanted a short term something!

Theharuna Haruna: My dear, its common with men more so when you have stress. However, even her attitude plays a big role.

Don-Scholar: You are the kind of people who flee then come back when she’s doing much better.

Counsellor says > Maureen Nakate, Second Chances Centre

I won’t call this as falling out of love, but this is a phase which in all probability most couples go through, where boredom and monotony seeps in after a few years of marriage, and we misconstrue that partners don’t love each other anymore.
In most relationships that I have witnessed, more than love, care really matters and helps cements the relationship further.
Also, I would strongly recommend not giving up on any marriage until the relationship is highly dysfunctional and difficult to continue.
Sometimes, it’s our own issues and conflicts that get amplified and we start perceiving everything around us in a negative light.
I know it’s a hard task for you to go out, but don’t give up so easily. Get to the bottom of the issue. Find out if you are suppressing some deep feelings and emotions about your marriage.
It is best is to be open and tell your spouse about your likes and dislikes. Communicate with her rather than stonewalling; you will surely see the change.
Compiled by Eseri Watsemwa

Next week’s problem

I am a 24-year-old woman and have never been in any serious relationship, the main reason being that I’m always attracted to men who are already ‘in a relationship’. Single men don’t attract me. I have tried to analyse my behaviour and found that perhaps the thrill of making an ‘unavailable’ man fall for me excites me. This obviously causes a lot of problems as I often find myself attracted to my friends’ boyfriends. I don’t know what to do.
-Stella